Denise Day Spencer

May 28, 2010

It’s never too early to start

Filed under: Home Front,Personal reflections — denisedayspencer @ 6:53 pm

Noel has been notorious for posting notes on our refrigerator through the years well in advance of December. The note will be her Christmas wish list along with the admonition, “It’s never too early to start!” Shopping for her, that is.

With that as my theme I’d like to discuss something much less cheery than Christmas. In fact it’s not cheery, but positively dreary. It’s death. This post is basically a public service announcement, but one from my own experience. From Michael’s experience. And it’s very important, so listen up. (more…)


May 14, 2010

“He is my teacher”

Filed under: Personal reflections — denisedayspencer @ 6:55 pm

Tomorrow is graduation day at our school. My first graduation without Michael; it will be difficult, to say the least. To me graduation was always much more of a special day for Michael than for me. He was the one who worked directly with the kids. I watched them embrace him and thank him for all he had done for them. I saw them proudly introduce him to their families. I heard them describe what he had meant to them in their graduation essays. I was always so proud of him on graduation day.

So as a tribute to Michael, this time I’d like to let a couple of students speak for themselves. (more…)

May 8, 2010

Pronoun trouble

Filed under: Personal reflections — denisedayspencer @ 8:10 pm

It’s true; on the internet you really can find just about anything — including the dialogue to my all-time favorite Daffy Duck ‘toon. Daffy, Bugs and Elmer are standing together, Elmer (of course) holding his hunting rifle.

Bugs: It’s true, Doc; I’m a rabbit, alright. Would you like to shoot me now or wait ’til you get home?
Daffy: Shoot him now! Shoot him now!
Bugs: You keep outta this! He doesn’t have to shoot you now!
Daffy: He does so have to shoot me now! [to Elmer] I demand that you shoot me now!
[Elmer looks at the camera, unsure if Daffy knows what he’s talking about. As Daffy sticks his tongue out at Bugs, he is shot. Daffy puts his beak in its place and pushes the tongue back in and walks back over to Bugs, gun smoke pouring out of his nostrils.]
Daffy: [to Bugs] Let’s run through that again.
Bugs: Okay. [deadpan] Would you like to shoot me now or wait till you get home.
Daffy: [similarly] Shoot him now; shoot him now.
Bugs: [as before] You keep outta this, he doesn’t have to shoot you now.
Daffy: [re-animated] Hah! That’s it! Hold it right there! [to audience] Pronoun trouble . . .
I laughed aloud the first time I saw this cartoon, and it still makes me chuckle to think of it. English teachers everywhere, take note. It’s an adorable example of the power of the pronoun. And now I find that I, like poor daffy Daffy, am having pronoun trouble.
You see, these days I’m having an awfully hard time changing from “our” and “we” to “my” and “I.” It’s perfectly understandable. For over 31 years I have been part of a “we” that I never dreamed would end so soon. So I constantly catch myself saying things like, “I was back in our bedroom when the phone rang,” or “Oh, yes, we have that movie, too.” I could make the excuse that the “we” is the dog, the cat and myself, but you and I both know that’s not what I meant. (more…)

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