Denise Day Spencer

February 25, 2006

The kindness of strangers

Filed under: Personal reflections — denisedayspencer @ 2:54 am

“I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.” –Tennessee Williams, A Streetcar Named Desire

Yesterday I experienced the kindness of strangers. I was feeling anxious about a situation I was going through, and very vulnerable. Everywhere I seemed to go in our small town, folks were nice to me. Two women in particular, neither of whom I had ever laid eyes on before, truly ministered to me with their winning smiles and kind words. I’m sure one of them had more than an inkling of what I was going through, but the other was clueless. Nevertheless, both reached out to me from their hearts.

A more fanciful person might have said, “Perhaps they were angels and you didn’t even know it!” No. They were just two people doing their jobs to the best of their ability, and caring about the strangers who crossed their paths. I don’t even know their names, but I am most grateful.

Then today one of my Christian co-workers at our Christian school was pretty darn rude to me. Go figure. I’ll try to give him the benefit of the doubt; maybe he was just having a bad day. Or maybe he would have been kinder to me if I’d been a stranger…?


Children’s sermon: The church

Filed under: Children's sermons — denisedayspencer @ 2:34 am

My children’s sermons continue, based on doctrinal outlines in “The Disciple’s Study Bible.” This week–the church. (more…)

February 22, 2006

Tea parties

Filed under: Personal reflections — denisedayspencer @ 1:41 am

Phillip Winn and his family have the right idea.

Even the little guy is being trained to enjoy a good tea party.

Tea is my one, true addiction. It all started when I was a little girl and my grandmother–who was also my babysitter–would set up a tea party for my sister and me. She’d bring out her little brown teapot and her cups and saucers with brown-eyed susans on them. I suppose to a little girl a tea party seemed all grown up.

I later had informal tea parties with Noel and Clay when they were small. (We used our kitty cat teapot that I’m now saving for tea parties with any future grandchildren who may come along.)

Michael and the kids make fun of me because I’ve always got a mug of tea in one hand. So many times when we are leaving to go somewhere, I run back into the house one more time shouting, “Wait! I forgot my tea!” I hardly ever spend money on myself for anything, but one year Michael gave me some Stash tea for Christmas and I found a new love. Now I don’t think anything about dropping a few dollars to get a great-quality cup of tea.

So Phillip and fam, I salute you! Too bad you guys live in Texas, or we could sip a cup together.

February 19, 2006

Male vs. female

Filed under: Random ramblings — denisedayspencer @ 11:28 pm

No, this isn’t a post about sex.


So the other night I was here at the computer working and I ran into a bit-‘o-trouble. It was acting screwy when I tried to spellcheck my blog post. Michael was sitting just a few yards away on his computer, so I mentioned it to him.

He got up from his chair, sighed, and muttered, “Ah, the difference between male and female computers. I should write a book.”

He came over, looked at my screen, hit one key–and deleted my whole post. “Sorry,” he said. He went back to his desk without a word of explanation and sat down.

Uh, yeah. Can you please finish that thought about male and female computers?  ‘Cause I’m not sure I get it.

February 17, 2006

Children’s sermon: The Bible–Our law for life

Filed under: Children's sermons — denisedayspencer @ 3:55 am

Here is my third children’s sermon on the Bible, based on the doctrinal notes from the Disciple’s Study Bible. (more…)

February 14, 2006

On Valentine’s Day

Filed under: Personal reflections — denisedayspencer @ 2:05 am

Well, I’ve noticed that Michael is hosting his annual Valentine’s Day discussion of romance on his web site and the BHT. He says he’s already gotten into some trouble from his posts. (See his essay, “Romeo is Better Off Dead” on internetmonk).

I suppose I’ve become as cynical as Michael has on the topic of romance, for some of the same reasons and for a few of my own. (No, I’m not going to share those with you. This is my blog. I can say and not say whatever I want!) I’ll just agree with Michael that the gods of romance have not exactly smiled on us. But as the BHT fellows have proven in years past, everybody’s got different ideas of what defines romance, so what are we even talking about here?

Therefore, I’ll abandon talk of romance and just mention Valentine’s Day instead. (more…)

February 13, 2006

Let there be light!

Filed under: Home Front — denisedayspencer @ 1:01 am

Living with someone who’s almost blind can be a challenge. Grandma is always commenting on how dark it is, both inside and out. She seems to think that if it’s dark to her it’s dark to us all. We keep trying to explain that she has macular degeneration–and we don’t! Be that as it may…

Grandma recently decided we needed more light in the house. Lots more. Several of our light fixtures had room for two or even three bulbs, but we’d just had one bulb in place. Not convinced that more bulbs would really make a difference for someone in her condition, we nevertheless agreed to try. Easier said than done. (more…)

February 8, 2006

Random ramblings

Filed under: Random ramblings — denisedayspencer @ 5:48 pm

It’s really no fun when your cat wakes you at 3:45 a.m. just because he wants to play hide-and-seek and you can’t go back to sleep…nor can you find him to throw him outside. O.K., Mistofelees. You win, already!

Being told you’ll never be able to do something kind of makes you want to say, “Then why try?”

God truly does work in the most mysterious and wonderful of ways.

I tried to give blood today. I wanted to give blood today. But because I was sick over the weekend they wouldn’t take me. Oh, well, at least I got a cool sticker.

Perhaps people who have never struggled in their marriages shouldn’t go around writing books on marriage. “And that’s all I’ve got to say about that.” [Forrest Gump]

Being sick and getting well

Filed under: Random ramblings — denisedayspencer @ 2:06 am

I work with a great bunch of folks.

I was sick over the weekend. It could have been much worse, but it was bad enough. I slept for hours on end, and now I’m all better.

I was so touched today by the number of people at work who asked me how I was doing, said it was good to see me up and around, etc. How did they all even know I’d been ill, since it happened over the weekend? They’re a great bunch of folks, that’s how!

February 5, 2006

What empty nest?

Filed under: Home Front — denisedayspencer @ 3:52 am

The other day it hit me: we’re going to be marrying off our daughter and sending our son away to college this summer. It was difficult enough to take Noel to college, but at least I still had Clay at home. He’s sweet. He’s fun. He makes me laugh. The thought of losing him just a couple of months after Michael gives Noel away to some other man…well, I’ve decided that’s a little too much empty nest for me.

So I’m rebelling. I’m refusing. I have a plan.

I will replace Clay with another teenage boy a year or two younger. It must be someone with a sweet disposition and a good sense of humor, like Clay. Being smart, cute and talented wouldn’t hurt, either. Actually, I’ve already got one picked out. I shall cleverly conceal his true identity by calling him “Joe.” (more…)

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